Thinking vs Feeling
Thinking is our natural ability to decide using logic. By thinking, we find objective truth while being independent of our own wishes and emotions of others. However, feeling is our natural ability to decide using empathy. When we using feelings, we do care for our own and others’ concerns.
Every person has both abilities, but some use thinking more often (called thinkers) and some use feeling more often (called feelers). This preferential behavior creates two different kinds of attitudes.
Let’s understand these distinctive attitudes by the below examples.
Your Friend Michael
Michael works in a bank as the branch manager. It’s a wonderful day for him as he has finally collected $30,000 to buy a car. He excitingly goes to his friends’ home and asks for his suggestion. His friend suggests him to buy a used Mercedes that cost $30,000. Michael thinks over the suggestion and rejects it. He is concerned over the high maintenance cost and hassle of maintaining an old car.
Instead, Michael decides to buy a new car from the dealer. As soon as Michael enters the car showroom with his friend, the new model of Honda looks awesome. But rather than making a decision at the mere face value, he compares the prices and specifications of Honda with other brands. Finally, he decides to buy Toyota at a price of $25,000. The remaining $5000 he saves for the future.
Michael is a thinker.
Your Friend John
John works in the equipment manufacturing company as a manager. He takes his wife to the showroom to buy a car as he has now successfully arranged $20,000. Both spend a lot of time viewing, inquiring, and testing different models. Michael faces a lot of difficulty in making selection, as every model looks him great. At last, he decides to buy a Toyota Corolla that costs $20,000 and is within his budget. But now the problem is his wife wants the Honda Accord, and he has to submit to his wife’s choice. So finally, he buys Honda Accord at a price of $25,000 exceeding his budget. To pay the difference, he has to arrange money from his household expense.
John is a feeler.
Here is the infographic to understand the difference visually!
Characteristics of Thinkers
Thinkers make logical decisions
Thinkers make their decisions based on logic and the analysis of the situation. They may like one thing, but their choice is ultimately influenced by logic instead of emotions. Their thinking takes lead when they buy items from the market, choose their jobs, select their mating partners, as well as when they conduct matters of their daily life. Though they show a tendency to emotions, their thinking remains the in-charge.
Thinkers like things
As compared to feelers who are interested in the people, thinkers are interested in the objects. For them, gadgets, computers, and devices are valuable as these enable them to achieve something. They worth superiority in skills, advancement in knowledge, and competitive powers. When dealing with people, they tend to be assertive and direct. They want facts to be clearly stated and truthfully told. They dislike inefficiency and incompetence in the people.
Thinkers organize their communication
When communicating with others, thinkers logically organize their communication. They usually speak in points and transit smoothly between ideas. They state the facts clearly and talk more specifically. Their communication is critical and direct. They express clearly and immediately their disagreement instead of keeping it in their hearts. In fact, their communication is brief.
Thinkers are superior in executive ability
As thinking is helpful in setting and achieving goals, making efficient choices, and pressurizing the people to get work done, thinkers are superior in executive abilities. They efficiently handle developmental, financial, and operational areas. They perform better at managerial positions and tend to be strict and firm supervisors.
Thinkers are skeptic
Thinker starts with doubt and questions. They question every situation and person. This skepticism helps them to detect lies, find loopholes, and recognize flaws in arguments. When they interact with others, they espouse the point of differences.
Characteristics of Feelers
Feelers make emotional decisions
Feelers value emotions. When making decisions, either trivial or sensitive, they consider the impact of their decision on their own as well as on others’ feelings. They think and evaluate, but the finality of their decisions is naturally determined but their emotions. Anything that arouses their emotions is worthy and anything that doesn’t attract them or alienate their feelings is worthless. In fact, they don’t usually consider the inherent qualities of the objects, instead, how do they feel about them. For this reason, feelers take extreme positions.
Feelers like people
Feelers are oriented to the people. They value people more than inanimate objects, and they are better at creating and maintaining relationships with others. They usually cooperate and hold their criticism, and tend to be tactful in disagreeing situations. Instead of stating the truth which can hurt others, they can keep quiet, avoid, or even lie because they don’t want to destroy relationships. Projects and businesses which require cooperation and teamwork are the best opportunities to reveal the potential of feelers.
Feelers use motivational language
Talks of feelers are not usually organized. They don’t know where to start and where to end – they usually ramble and repeat their points. But the language of feelers is motivational – filled with appreciation, compliments, and understanding. They can also become hyper and sensitive - they can explode at others. Their facial expressions and body language show glimpses of smiles, anxiety, sadness, and anger more clearly.
Feelers are better in human skills
Feelers have the power of persuasion and connection. They quickly connect with others, convince them of their point of view, and motivate them to take action. In studies, they like psychology, sociology, and all other social sciences. They usually don’t perform better in pure or applied sciences e.g mathematics, physics, chemistry, or engineering. They usually join the professions in which they can contribute to the betterment of others - e.g nursing, social service, teaching, etc.
Feelers are agreeable
When talking with others, feelers usually show an agreeable attitude. They don’t doubt the intentions and question others, instead, they empathize with others. If someone is feeling worried, they would first emotionally support him and then inquire about the cause. Agreeableness makes them likable people, but when they need to confront others or become rude, they tend to evade the situation.